Your purpose as a man is twofold:
Of the two, protecting is fundamental. You cannot provide until you “secure the perimeter.”
There is a reason cultures universally praise heroes. Heroes save and protect the weak from danger and provide them with freedom to flourish.
And there is a reason heroes are almost always men. The work of a hero is a masculine endeavor.
Even in the Scriptures, the man’s role is fundamentally heroic:
For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.Ephesians 5:23
Simon Sinek illustrates the role of the leader (i.e. the alpha, the hero) with the “Circle of Safety”:
Jack Donovan describes the same concept in The Way of Men:
You have to define your group. You need to define who is in and who is out, and you need to identify potential threats. You need to create and maintain some sort of safe zone around the perimeter of your group.Jack Donovan, The Way of Men (Kindle location 90)
Your primary role as a man is to protect those inside your circle of safety. Whoever is inside your circle of safety is your tribe.
If you do not yet have a tribe to lead, your responsibility is to prepare yourself to build one.
Your tribe could be as small as a wife and child. Or it could extend to include other people who need your protection and leadership.
In either case, a tribe is small. If it’s greater than 150 people, it’s probably too big. You cannot protect and guide the masses.
Everyone seeks protection from outside dangers. This creates demand for heroes.
It’s no coincidence that all these SJWs are craving “safe spaces.” When you destroy men, you destroy safe spaces. (Even if their sense of “danger” is… misguided, to put it gently.)
Regardless, your role as a man is to create a “circle of safety” for your tribe and protect them from danger.
You define who is allowed into the circle. And you define who and what is dangerous and not allowed to touch the circle.
That’s the simple overview. But as you might expect, there are nuances.
Manipulation is the adversary
Evil men have understood the power of fear (danger) for ages.
A false sense of danger can be manufactured simply by making a visceral appeal to fear.
Fear shuts down critical thinking and positions the fear mongerer’s solution as the source of safety.
Men don’t want to go to war, but they don’t want the “Enemy” to brutally rape and murder their wives and children.
Men don’t want to slave away their lives for a meager wage, but they don’t want their children to starve.
And let’s just cut the chase here:
Men like titties, but they don’t want to burn in hell for eternity.
The appeal to a visceral sense of danger is the primary method that manipulators use to control men.
Fear is the primal trigger in the brain. It overrides all other functions.
If you think about it, this makes perfect sense from a design perspective:
If a tiger is trying to eat you, it is not a good time to be thinking about hunger, sex, or the greater meaning of life.
This is why the sense of “clear and present danger” overrides everything else. It’s a design feature to help you stay alive.
In reality though, the Urgent and the Important rarely overlap.
Real life is long stretches of boredom punctuated by rare occasions of disruption.
Even in times of warfare, for most people in most places, life is not an endless string of crises like the movies would suggest.
N.N. Taleb describes our bias to focus on the lurid over normal events as “History Seen from the Emergency Room.”
Taleb himself lived through a civil war and describes his (rather unremarkable) experience:
As the reader will know by now, I have myself lived through the worst part of the civil war in Lebanon. Except for areas near the Green Line, it didn’t feel like war. But those reading about it in history books will not understand my experience.-Nicholas Nassim Taleb, Skin in the Game
99% of the time, our sense of what is urgent is manipulation, not reality.
The manipulated man is an overwhelmed man. Everything looks like danger and he has no filter to distinguish the urgent from the important.
The most immediate source of manipulation a man experiences typically comes from his woman.
To a woman, everything is urgent.
A practical definition of a “shit test” is when she throws an urgent demand at you that, if complied with, will veer you off course from what is important.
And she’s not doing it maliciously. It’s a design feature.
Shit tests will make you a stronger man… if you can effectively ignore or calm her demands and carry on with what is important (long-term provision and protection for your tribe.)
Preparing for the unknown danger
Once we recognize that the urgent is rarely the true danger… and if our role as men is to protect our tribe from danger… that raises the question:
Where is the real danger?
Once again, it comes to understanding that real life is long stretches of boredom punctuated by rare occasions of disruption.
It’s those “rare occasions of disruption” that are the potential danger.
Just because life is relatively uneventful, does not mean there won’t be changes.
There are trends and there are sudden collapses of fragile institutions and systems.
The tricky thing is that you never know when or how disruptive changes will occur.
But you can predict what will collapse… eventually.
If you take on a lot of debt without assets to back it up, you can bet that you will be financially ruined at some point.
If your ability to fund your lifestyle depends entirely on a corporate paycheck, you can bet that you’ll be broke at some point.
If your worldview is based on ideologies that do not correspond to reality, you can bet you’ll be proven painfully wrong at some point.
Taleb details how to identify fragile systems in his seminal work, Antifragile.
The bottom line is this:
You cannot predict the future.
But you CAN and MUST ensure the safety of your tribe.
Yes, there are freak ways to get wiped out.
If God or the government wants you dead, there’s really nothing you can do about it.
But just about everything else can be prepared for.
Your task as a man is to ignore the hype.
Ignore the urgency.
And protect yourself and your tribe from the real dangers.
“Massive action” is for lazy thinkers
If you’re plugged into “Red Pill Twitter”, you’ll notice that “hustling” is a big theme there.
“Wake up and get to work!”
“You gotta learn to love the grind.”
“I built a 6-figure business while working 60 hours a week at my day job. Get off your ass lazy mutha fuckas.”
There is one important truth these guys get right: nothing happens without action.
But this hustler mindset is almost worse than no action at all.
The trouble with taking action is the very thing that makes it a powerful advantage:
Action creates your identity.
James Clear describes the phenomenon well:
Your identity emerges out of your habits. You are not born with preset beliefs. Every belief, including those about yourself, is learned and conditioned through experience.–Atomic Habits, p. 36
This is why manipulators are big on getting you to do things. They will never try to engage with your beliefs.
Manipulators will shame you into taking action.
Because once you take action, your brain adjusts your identity to fit the action.
The ego cannot possibly cope with the idea that you would have both the power and awareness to make a good choice, and then deliberately make a bad choice.
So you adjust your identity to fit your behavior.
Taking “massive action” is actually dangerous if the motivation was not generated within yourself. It could cause you to force an identity upon yourself that does not align with your natural desires and inclinations.
The important question to ask before taking any action is:
“Am I becoming the type of man I want to be?”
I’ve seen plenty of older men who work themselves to exhaustion and suffer poor health as a result.
This is the consequence of a life lived in service to the Urgent.
But of course, no man can believe that he spent his life deliberately making harmful choices when he had the power to do otherwise. So instead he identifies as a “hard worker.”
Yes, he’s miserable often, and his health is going to shit… but, by God, he’s a “hard worker” and that’s just what hard workers do.
This is a common example of iatrogenics… when intervention (taking action) leads to a worse outcome than doing nothing.
Contrary to the popular American ethos, no action is often the appropriate choice.
Inaction is not the same as idleness.
A skilled warrior conserves his energy and waits patiently for the opportune time to attack.
Slow down to get there faster
You do not have to choose between hustling and overthinking.
There is a third option:
Slow down and solve problems carefully, at the root.
Find the first principles behind the problem and design an appropriate solution.
You have time to prepare.
A man can hit his peak at the age of 40.
A lot of shit can happen in the short run and it will have zero effect on the long run.
Trouble paying your rent?
Get a roommate or move in with your parents while you learn a skill that will feed you for the long-term.
Too ashamed to have sex with the lights on?
Hit the gym for a few years and build the body of a Greek god.
Single and too afraid to talk to girls?
Take five years to improve your game… then get yourself a hot wife.
You are not a woman. You have plenty of time.
Think about where you want to be (or not be) when you are 40.
And even if you screw up and miss your peak at 40, you can still have a pretty good run as a late starter.
Slow down and think.
Don’t buy into the hype of “hard work.”
The only hard work you should be doing is training. Train your body. Train your mind. Train your craft.
Everything else should flow easily from that.
If life seems hard, it’s because:
- You’re not prepared
- You’re being manipulated
Become the hero you were meant to be.
The perks of the Hero are best for the tribe
On the surface, becoming a hero seems kind of dull.
It’s mostly a lot of training and preparation.
Why bother? Why not just settle for a life of comfort?
Simon Sinek explains the primal benefits to being the leader. It has to do with the brain chemical serotonin:
Hero’s have two advantages that other men don’t get:
Heroes get to eat well and breed well.
The Hero gets first choice of meat & first choice of mate.
And this is a good system.
The hero must be strong in body & mind if he’s going to defend his tribe, so it makes sense that he should dine on the finest and most nutritious food.
And it is in the culture’s best interest that heroes breed with the most fertile women. We want strong healthy children with optimized genes to lead and reproduce in the next generation.
In fact, other than training and preparing, the Hero’s time is mostly occupied with the basic pleasures of eating good food and playing with his “sex kitten.”
But these perks come with a responsibility.
The leader is expected to protect his tribe from danger… even risking his own life if necessary.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…Ephesians 5:25
A hero is expected to face the danger on behalf of his people. He bears the brunt of the attack.
If a leader sacrifices his own people in face of danger, he loses his rights to the perks.
Fraudulent leaders create demand for heroes.
And that demand has never been greater than it is today.
The great conspiracy
The elites want to keep the path of the hero hidden.
And they want to deprive any would-be heroes of their necessary advantages.
It’s no coincidence that religious charlatans have focused their efforts on two things: restricting food & restricting marriage:
Now the spirit is saying explicitly, that in subsequent eras some will be withdrawing from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and the teachings of demons, in the hypocrisy of false expressions, their own conscience having been cauterized; forbidding to marry, abstaining from foods…– 1 Timothy 4:1-3
Without access to nourishing food, men cannot produce the levels of testosterone needed take risks and aggressively defend their people.
And without sexual access to women, men have no incentive to do anything heroic.
These restrictions and perversions have gotten so bad that today, even married men struggle to get sexual access to their own wives.
And the church implicitly endorses this through their “servant leadership” mantras and utter denial of the man’s authority in his own home.
As a man, and as a Bible believer, I say…
A man does not need permission to follow his conscience and claim his territory.
Not from the church.
Not from a woman.
Not from anyone.
The world needs more intelligent, heroic men to speak up, expose fraud and protect the weak from harm.
And in return for this bravery, you can claim the hero’s reward.
If you’re ready to get down to business, I’m creating a free email course. It’s designed to be a starting point for the Hero’s Journey.
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It’s for men who think differently.
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