So stop trying to “lead” her through rewards and punishments.
This philosophy is known as “behaviorism” and it will lead to (at best) a lot of work or (at worst) a relationship blowup.
Here’s why this approach is so dangerous…
Behaviorism is dangerous because it (sort of) works. People do respond in the short-run to rewards and punishments.
If you deliberately withhold your attention when she “misbehaves” or praise her for “good behavior”, she will respond.
But here’s the problem:
She will ONLY change that one particular behavior and she’ll STOP acting according to your preferences when the rewards/punishments stop.
That’s a lot of work.
Plus, she may resent the fact that you’re trying to control her.
Thankfully, there’s an easier way…
Addressing behavior is only dealing with the surface problem.
You’ve got to get to the ROOT.
Women (and anyone) behave in certain ways because of their IDENTITY… who they believe themselves to be.
Change the identity, and the behaviors change naturally.
How do you change a woman’s identity?
Give her nicknames. Do it in a teasing way or during her bedroom climaxes.
She’s a “feminine girl”, your “sexy little kitten,” your “fertile housewife,” etc.
Soon enough, she will change her behaviors to match her identities.
Influencing someone through identity is a long-term strategy.
You won’t see immediate results, but you will see PERMANENT results.
In the end, the rewards-and-punishments approach doesn’t last. Plus, it’s kind of coercive.
Identity change beats behavior control every time.
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